Single Mother

Tuscany with Tim, Luca and Nico

Just posted a few photos from our week in Tuscany.

Went to see Luca's father, Nico but Tim and my stepson, Toby, came too and we had a great time together. As you can see, Luca took to the pool like a duck to water ! It was great seeing him enjoying himself with his biological and stepfathers all together.

Tim and I came back to an appt' at the Zita West clinic to talk about ways to boost our chances of conceiving a child naturally. We are giving it a go till end of this year before even considering tests and medical/further fertility treatment. Who knows what the future holds for us but we are certainly trying !

My sister had her second boy on Tues 12 Aug after a long period of trying assisted conception and then Zita West's regime they conceived little Louis naturally. He is truly beautiful.

On another note, congrats to Marleen on her adoption of two children, Colin 6, and Louise, 3. They are very lucky children to have such a determined and devoted mother figure in their lives now.

Wishing Jen Connolly all the luck in the world as she waits for news of her adoption of a little boy called Reese.

much love to you all

Trying for No.2

So I forgot to post earlier in the year that Tim and I had discussed trying for a baby and we had decided to leave it to 'fate' and not to use any precautions. This in itself is a huge step for us both as we had somehow both imagined that our baby-making days were over, he with his 16 yr old, Toby and me at 43, with my IVF-conceived toddler, Luca. The thought of a newborn was not without it's own anxieties but it's something we feel we have to do.

With regard to going for more fertility treatment, Tim felt that it wasn't his place to ask me to do this and that I had to make that decision myself. We are conscious that our relationship is still new and we don't want the desire for a baby to 'eclipse' other developments in our emotional and physical relationship.  I don't feel ready to go through that again and although I'd like nothing more than to have a child with him (it's what I always wanted for myself) I'm not quite at the point where I want to seek medical treatment.  I decided that a 'halfway house' would be to look at a clinic such as Zita West's, where they treat you with nutritional advice and complementary therapies such as accupuncture and hypnotherapy.  My sister went there after a failed round of IVF to conceive baby no. 2 and after a few months was pregnant and is due on 10 Aug.

I'm on her supplements now as is Tim and we have our first consultation with Zita on 14th Aug (a year to the day we first met !) I guess if I'm honest I don't believe I can conceive naturally as I never have done before and I think the hypnotherapy in particular would be useful to put me in a more positive frame of mind.

Wish me luck ladies. x

Potential single mother wanted for magazine article

ARE YOU PLANNING TO BECOME A SINGLE MUM BY CHOICE?

You magazine, the UK's biggest Sunday magazine is looking for a woman in her
mid-thirties who is planning to have a baby on her own to be interviewed and
photographed.

Please contact anna@annamagee.com / 0208 519 5888 for a confidential chat if
that sounds like you

Best wishes and thanks again
Anna

Back from Barcelona

Just back from Barcelona to visit Luca's father, Nico and his partner Pablo. I went with Tim, my fiance, Luca, Toby, Tim's 16 yr old son and Toby's girlfriend, Eleanor.

We had a wonderful time and it worked out really well with Luca staying at his father's flat in the old centre and us staying a couple of streets away in a lovely hotel.

I realised that it really could work out as we planned, and better still that Luca now has both his biological father and a stepfather that love him. I believe he is a truly lucky child.

It's not conventional but it really does work.

I hope many more women will chose unconventional but nevertheless, responsible ways of fulfilling their dream to become mothers.

Wishing all readers a Happy Christmas & New Year

Thanks for following this site in 2007.

2008 promises to be an exceptionally memorable year for me as it will be the year I finally 'tie the knot'. Never say never is all I can (now) say....!

Wishing you all the luck in the world with your hopes, plans and dreams. Don't be afraid to go for what  you want and take responsibility where you can for your own happiness and I truly believe, you will not go far wrong.

With deepest respect and fond regards

Ruth Yahel, Founder

BBC LONDON

BBC London's current affairs  programme "Inside Out" is making an 8-10
minute feature about "Modern Mothers." We are looking for single women
who have decided they don't want to wait until their perfect partner
comes along and are exploring their options for motherhood, be it donor
insemination or egg freezing. We would like to find a woman who has
decided to visit a fertility clinic to start treatment. This would not
be intrusive but rather a morning or afternoon on a few occasions to
find out how she is going about I it and the experiences involved.
Although we are looking for contributors to put the story together now,
we realise that filming depends on when people come forward which may
take a few months. We have a weekly half hour slot on Monday at 7.30 pm
until mid next year.

I assure you that we are a very sensitive and well organised small team.
Please contact me on my mobile number 079 327 33232 or email:
amelia.vale@bbc.co.uk

The Wright Stuff

Princess TV/The Wright Stuff's doing another show on single mums on Tuesday 20 Nov

They are asking 'Should single mothers work?' Caroline Flint
the MP is going to be on the panel talking about being a single mum, they're looking for 2 case studies: One who is a single working mum and one who is a stay at home single mum. The discussion will be based on their opinions and choices in why they have decided to work or not to.

if you're interested in appearing contact Leanne Dance as per my previous post

should be a lively debate

Ruth

URGENT MEDIA REQUEST - THE WRIGHT STUFF

The Wright Stuff are looking for a potential single mother by choice for their show today. This was sent on 15th Nov.

I've just come across your website and was wondering if you could
help me with a media request for single women who have/ want a baby
without a man.

The Wright Stuff is a daily current affairs discussion show and
tomorrow we are hoping to discuss the topic 'Who would chose to be a
single mum?'

On the panel tomorrow we have Lori Turner who herself is a single mum
of two children, we would also like to hear from a single women about
using donor insemination to have a child. The discussion would be based
around their individual story and I am hoping to find a single women
who hasn't found the right partner to have a child with so made the
decision to become a single mum.

I was wondering if you may be able to assist me in terms of finding a
case study for this part of the show. We are based in London and can
provide transport for anyone willing to take part.

I know it is very short notice and if this is something you can help me
with then please feel free to pass on my contact details 02079851942 or
email leanne.dance@princesstv.com

Screening of Baby Race again

It seems that reported today that the Baby Race will be screened again on a New channel from Sky.  What was Sky travel is now to become Sky Real lives and is due to be launched on 7th November this year.  The channel is aimed at older women with a demographic of of 35-54. 

So it seems that there will be yet another chance for new people to see the programme.

Founder gets engaged !

For those of you that don't already know, I met someone a few months ago but already he's proposed to me and I've accepted. His name's Tim, he has a grown-up son of his own and he's looking forward to the challenge of being a stepfather to Luca !

I never thought it could be this easy and although it's been incredibly fast, I'm as sure (as you ever can really be) that this will work out. I'm the happiest I've been in life and all since I turned 40 so there is a lot of hope for you all out there.

See this week's Woman Magazine p.22 article and new pictures of me and Luca.

Love to hear news from you all

much love

Ruth